While I still believe what I wrote there, I’m finding that many of the women who are contacting me are not at the point where they are sure if the man is their “boyfriend” or not.
With that in mind I wanted to review one of the recent emails I’ve received from a reader and offer some additional advice for this problem.
Moving Towards an Exclusive Relationship Assuming the “let’s be exclusive” conversation hasn’t happened, I would recommend you start to slowly but intentionally determine if he feels your relationship is headed in that direction.
Where does he see this relationship going, exactly?
You enjoy each others’ company, enjoy the same things and over the next month or so you start to date more seriously. However there is one problem: his dating profile is still active.
If this sounds like your situation, you’re not alone.
Still, these are areas you will need him to define.
I even had one reader who had gave the man a hard time the day after their first date when his profile was still up.
I wish these readers had written me beforehand because this is often the worst approach to take (at least from this guy’s point-of-view). I do have some advice but let’s first look at one reader’s email and user this as an example for better understanding where you stand with your guy: I have been dating a man I met on for about 6 weeks – we go out regularly and he is always quick to make plans with me.
What You Do The one thing you shouldn’t do is verbally attack the guy or start throwing out ultimatums.
If he’s hesitating because he’s concerned about commitment, this approach could scare him off.