So while you might think, “Yeah, but she may have wasted three years on a guy who won’t marry her,” you’d be mistaken.Sophie said herself that her relationship wasn’t a waste of time, no matter what happens next.I know this all sounds like justification, but he really has made improvements in the past year.Before me, he was in two longer-term relationships, and he said that he’s never had what we have now, that he’s never even considered marriage and kids with anyone else before and that I’m not just his girlfriend, I’m his best friend.Right now we see each other 4-5 times a week, and I mostly I stay at his place.He also has this professional project that’s a big priority. We discussed moving in together when my lease is up in October, but now I know he’s not ready. I tell him that he can still have that if we’re living together, but he’s still not sure when he’ll be ready. He feels really strongly about living with me and equates it to marriage.
Am I being completely foolish and just a pathetic girl? Thanks, Sophie Dear Sophie, I know you’re looking for advice, but I want to use your email as a teaching tool.
He’s been working on it for more than 2 years so I don’t know if that’s also a factor in why he’s reluctant to move forward.
We almost never fight, but when we do it’s always about the bigger issue: our future together. I’ve told him that I’ll wait and believe he’ll be worth it.
He’s never even considered giving a girl a key to his apartment!
But when he moved this past July, he let me decorate/organize his kitchen which he said was big for him because he likes to be in control of that.