Penetrating that group of friends, playing “the game” in order to get to your “target girl” is hard work, and sometimes does not work if you don’t speak Spanish well enough for her to understand.Many guys who come to Colombia cannot pick up girls in their own native language let alone in Spanish and some even have the audacity to say that the women here are just “gold diggers” or “too difficult” and that is not accurate at all.Actually, I got more instant attention in Southern California; the “Latino effect.” The only thing that makes me stand out to women here is my height, thank God for that one tall great uncle! Regarldess, I look on the bright side and see this as an advantage.I speak Spanish fluently; therefore, I can’t play the “…no jaaabl0 Españoler mucho bueno. I’m naturally outgoing and funny, so I can really be myself when speaking Spanish.Here in Medellin, you do NOT need to play that game.Medellin nightclubs are for dancing, so it’s very easy to go up to a woman in a noisy disco, put out your hand, gesture for her to take it, and start dancing.Generally, these women will be dressed and fashionable.
So I do not have that instant “gringo effect” on them.I do this often, and many times I will dance one or two songs without even saying a word.Imagine, our hands are on each other’s bodies before even knowing each other’s names.More often than not I’m not even interested in talking to the girl; I just want to dance and have fun. Amazingly, when I do that, women are more attracted than when I start talking to them while dancing.A certain amount of negligence after making an impression piques a woman’s interest, it is the whole psychological framework of the type of women who wants a strong man (check out this great article on Psychology Today by Gina Barreca, Ph.