When I expressed my disappointment, he chided me for giving him an ultimatum at all. It didn’t matter that countless times before, he had actually said he wanted us to get married and or that he couldn’t imagine a future without me.He saw me as an emotional terrorist holding our relationship hostage—and like the U. Nor did he acknowledge the fact that we were quickly approaching our mid-30s, nearing the end of my prime childbearing years. Don't Threaten Me As much as I’d like to play the victim in this situation, it is 100 percent my choice to stay in this relationship.Who’s to say that marriage is the best or only option? Look at how many people marry the wrong person, over and over again.Yet society puts a stigma on those of us who aren’t married, as friends and family just add to the stress with constant inquiries: “What’s wrong with you? ” I am deeply familiar with this line of questioning. If we are in an otherwise happy, fulfilling, and committed relationship, is there still something bad or unhealthy about it?
On the final day of the ultimatum, he presented me not with a ring and a proposal, but the promise of one day .
He has said that he would like to get married but that it’s not something he to do with his life,” she says.
While her boyfriend is open to talking about marriage, Abby says, he does not like to linger on the subject.
And she doesn’t press him either: “I feel scared to ask why.
Maybe I’m afraid of what the answer might be.” Abby and her boyfriend have shared major life events, including buying a home together, going on vacations, and adopting a dog.