In fact, a small male is just as defenseless against a large female as a small female is against a large male. Never said anything because fear of shame and ridcule. The large male assailant is most often tall and the small female victim is most often short.That said, do you believe there are many cases of a large woman raping a small man? As a rule, men are taller, often way taller, than women are so when the tables are turned and a large female rapes a small male, that large female assailant is most likely short, maybe even very short, and that small male victim is most likely tall, maybe even very tall, perhaps towering over his short, large female assailant by more than a foot.I would also walk up town twice a week and feel overwhelmed, the crowds, the unreality of it all etc, but I would just go and do my shopping.Sometimes I had to look at the price of an item 3 times before it sunk in, but I never questioned why I felt this way, I just got on the best I could.I think everyone who has recovered or really moved forward will all say they had to go against their instinct many times.. How you feel now has no bearing on how you may feel in a few months time, none at all. Begin to learn to be less impressed by the way you feel, even if you don’t understand why you feel a certain way, it doesnt matter, just place it all under the umbrella of anxiety. By all means educate yourself by reading the book or the blog and then just go and get on with your day.That is because we are built to make a decision when anxious, anxious feelings mean flee or find the danger. Never be afraid to drop the subject for a while, I have advised people on here that they are becoming too indulged in the subject and to have a week off and just add some living in. Don’t see anxiety or the sensations that come with it as the enemy, embrace them, they are only feelings/sensations that can do you no harm.
I had being totally induldged in me and how I felt, my mind was totally shattered, it could take no more, it needed a break, the best way to do this was to DROP the subject and just go and live my life whilst taking how I felt with me.
You can’t take breaks if you go into every situation questioning why you feel this way, why it went like it did, what may help etc.
The best advice and one line I think I can ever give to put this point forward is ‘Live like you don’t have it’ that truly was me in the end, I went around like the person I was before and took how I felt with me without question and I eventually became that person, I was no longer a victim.
Again these trips became easier and easier, a shift back to me was certainly happening.
This is the reason so many people stay in the cycle because every instinct says ‘go home, it’s easier there’ or ‘try and fix this, this is not right’. Don’t scurry home or cancel appointments, run away from a friend to get away from a conversation etc, just go everywhere at will, anxious or not, it can’t and never will do you any harm. Don’t go over and over how you feel or feel the need to work it all out, disect it.