However, the need to examine the entire relationship in which the newly-invigorated older man experiences sex remains as great as ever, according to James A.
Pitisci, a Miami psychologist and family therapist.
Still, more often than not, these pairings feel icky because they are icky: The parties aren’t on equal footing; different experiences and life stages are inevitably going to make it harder to relate.
Attention from an older man might feel flattering, but do your future self a solid and ask: Why isn’t this guy interested in people his own age? John Waters has said, “If you go home with somebody, and they don’t have books, don’t fuck ‘em!
We will discuss the solutions that many men have pioneered in the new country of modern aging.
Meanwhile, women also watch their romantic options shrink as they age—a similar amount of money or power on their part usually doesn’t bring all the boys to the yard in quite the same way.
How’s this for kismet: One fateful day in 1966, singer Tony Bennett met and took a photo with a couple after one of his shows.
Little did Bennett know at the time, his future wife was there, too: She was the baby growing inside the belly of the female fan.
Older men who date much younger women make the transactional, hierarchical nature of romance explicit and reveal the extent to which men and women are still playing by very different rulebooks.
In other areas of life, we gesture toward valuing things beyond the superficial. Some older men have this secret other option, whereby they get to opt out of the system: When they acquire enough money or power, they can basically trade that capital for the thing women have that’s valued by society: youth and beauty.