‘My Princess’ – again, in the right context, those words can be lovely. Or even in the first few weeks of being with someone?
When he later cut me down and accused me of not being that perfect Madonna, I did all I could to prove I was worthy of his love. If I could show him I was still that special one, then perhaps that was all he needed to change and I could fix things. Don’t project onto someone else who you hope they’ll be in the future.
Until you learn to love yourself rather than abandon yourself, you will continue to attract abusive relationships. Staying single may not be the answer Most of us want to share love and we are lonely when we don’t have anyone with whom to share love. An addition, many of our deepest issues that need healing come forward in relationships.
The challenge is finding a partner who is open to learning with themselves and with you so that the two of you can journey together through your healing process.
He’d suggest I wear different clothes, or that he didn’t like my friends. I was seeing only the things that confirmed my dream of a wonderful life with him. My ‘baby girl’ can be beautiful in a loving relationship.
Once we’re drawn in deep enough, another side appears. Denying those that were screaming at me that this relationship was no good for me. (I’ve created a whole new category for them on here).
One of the scariest things after leaving an abusive relationship was dating again. She feared, as she hardly knew him, that this might be a red flag.
In them he calls her his ‘baby girl’ and his ‘princess’.
This is a huge false belief which you are continuing to operate from in your current relationships. Others tend to treat us the way we treat ourselves.
Given that you come from an abusive family, it’s likely that you have learned to treat yourself the way your parents treated you and the way they treated themselves.