Breaking off communication with someone I had nothing in common with, or at least who was missing qualities I was looking for, became easy.
Honestly, it was often a relief because there were more first dates waiting and I would be able to remove someone from my list of potentials.
Dating in numbers allowed me to make decisions based on what I desired, not based on how lonely I was at that time.
It also helped me better define what I was looking for in my profile. Greater Comfort One great side-effect to dating so actively was that I became more comfortable with dating itself.
Looking back, this only made my dates uncomfortable and left me looking either weird or desperate.
When I had multiple dates lined up, I found myself very relaxed on each date.
When I was relaxed, there was no “doing better” or “doing worse”. For the rest of us, the biggest part of find that special someone is opportunity.
For the first few weeks, things were similar to my old method and I didn’t see immediate improvements but over time my dating life changed .
All of these dates were very stressful because of the time being I devoted just to get to the date.
First date failure, whether because she wasn’t what I was looking for or the reverse, was very difficult.
As the stress began to lessen, I started representing who I was much better.
Early on I was always in a panic-mode: trying to make sure everything went perfect on every date, overly concerned about the happiness of my date, worried about the impression I was making and so on.