Most teens are cynical and standoffish to new boyfriends so you have to expect hostility initially.Don’t go turning on the young man’s Madden game and professing your “skills” in hopes that the video game will bond you to him.Kids can be great bonuses to meeting someone new and they can also be nightmares just as easily.When a man gets older he realizes that the chance of meeting a childless woman thins dramatically and the question of “how” may come to his mind in dealing with a child that isn’t his.It’s very obvious when we do this and kids read that stuff immediately.
And, while those numbers are surely much more equal in the US today, I’m still guessing fewer men have kids than women.
Take it slow and be yourself, help out when you can, or when you’re asked, and the number one thing is to be good to their mom.
Being a boyfriend who openly bombs on mom in front of the kids or being that guy breaking mom’s heart will forever lock you into asshole mode in their minds and you will never get over it.
Financially that just doesn’t make sense.”Or, I’d get messages from guys 20 years older than me who didn’t want to date women their own age because they looked “busted.”Or, I’ll talk to male friends who think their romantic relationships are “the most important” factor in their personal happiness, but work 70 hour weeks and devote zero energy to learning the skills of making relationships work. the end result of this is that a lot of men who want kids won’t be able to have kids.
Because, despite more men having children than men.