Sniff out suspicious spending Take a tip from private detectives working on infidelity cases: Before blindly accusing, check credit and checking account statements for odd spending activity."We use bank statements on a daily basis," says Marc Bourne, vice president for Know It All Intelligence Group in Bensalem, Pa.Fifteen years later, the new wife came to me, saying, 'I know my husband is cheating' and brought the credit card statements that proved it.
Pay special attention to ATM withdrawals on the checking account statements, too, says Bourne."The text alert and email alerts are usually one of the first things we tell the spouse to do. Cheaters have a tendency to cover their tracks so by the time the statement comes in the mail, they've formulated their excuse.Alerts are a great backup." After the financial evidence: be smart "If you find indicting charges that indicate cheating, the knee-jerk reaction is to confront," says Gargano."If you've been with that person long enough, you know their Social Security number, the mother's maiden name, etc. " Pull credit reports for complete information Nothing indicting on the statements, but your gut tells you your parter is straying?Obtain a copy of your credit report and look for joint loans or lines of credit that you were previously unaware of.