It was difficult enough for a relationship to get out of the starting gate before technology, but now, despite or maybe because of all the possibilities, it can feel nearly impossible.There’s more potential but the potential remains unrealized.Online dating allows us to meet people we would never get to meet, it provides options and inventory, but after we meet, we still have to be willing to do the real life work that real life relationships require.If we’re over the age of three, getting close to another person takes time and effort, but when we put in that time and effort, the infinitely possible can become infinitely real.But we can’t turn back, we’ve gone too far down the virtual road, and so are frequently left to continue in the virtual relationship, or nothing at all.Dating in the age of technology presents challenges that can be difficult even for the most confident of daters.
This can create a host of challenges that didn’t exist before technology.The sheer quantity of choices gives us the feeling that we can and will meet someone through technology. And yet, precisely because there is so much choice, we often don’t give the person we’ve met a real chance.If anything isn’t to our immediate liking, we dive back into our device, back into the land of possibility.If so, you’re likely headed deep into the throes of a pseudo-relationship unless you move quickly! For example, tell him you love to explore new cafes or coffee houses. Hopefully he suggests something similar without the prompt; but if he seems interested yet doesn’t initiate, feel free to say, “I enjoy online dating but know, for me, that meeting in person is an important step. If he tells you to “call him sometime” and leaves his number, Dating With Dignity recommends you go “old school” and let him know that while you’re flattered, you “don’t call men.” Tell him you’re happy to give him your number though. Even though you’re dating 21st century style, you don’t have to do the asking or be the one who pursues. While it can be tempting to have long, intimate phone conversations with someone you really find yourself liking, a phone call before meeting in person is much different than talking on the phone after you’ve started dating someone.Technology, although enticing, simply cannot replace a real meeting (or a real relationship). It has to be done soon after you meet someone whom you’re actually interested in if it has any chance of becoming something real. Stay in your feminine zone and encourage him to man up! Chatting until the sun comes up seems romantic until you realize that you really have NO IDEA WHO YOU’RE TALKING TO.