As I’m fond of saying, dating success is 80% attitude and 20% skill, and a of that attitude involves both issues of masculinity and also understanding and empathizing with women.
The people who do best with women are the ones who not only understand them but, critically, don’t view them as opponents, enemies or inferiors.
This is different from sexually escalating: the idea is that women secretly want a man to force them to have sex (because rape fantasies, evo psych, it demonstrates “alphaness”, other bullshit).
Eventually my brother decided to “just go for it” with his girlfriend at a party.
but so much of pick-up is based around mistaken ideas regarding gender roles and female sexuality that it’s difficult to sort the gold from the toxic, rape-y dross.
Of course, there are a lot of people who don’t feel this way.
They claim to not hate women and focus on self improvement, but believe men must establish control/dominance over the women in their lives in order to “get sex”, and that women are intellectually/morally inferior to men.However, he became a massive asshole in the process.He believed wholeheartedly in the “alpha fux/beta bux” model” where men who are “beta” will only ever be hated and used by women, a model which our parents seem to fit.My brother’s girlfriend was a shy, socially awkward girl.She didn’t want to have sex, partly because of her youth and and insecurity, and partly because he was pushing for it too hard.