It’s better to just think about what’s happening and where you’re coming from in all of it. But when they consistently do the same thing and it is something that just doesn’t work for me and I feel like it’s reasonable for me to expect it, I do bring it up.Some things to consider: Personally, in a relationship, if someone doesn’t do what I expect them to do, I usually forgive them… I would say it should be as simple as, “OK, you’re doing this and it makes me feel this way (whatever it is you feel) and it makes me think this…But just because somebody should do something doesn’t mean they will, for whatever reason. 😉 But be that as it may, it does bother you and my bet is that you are trying to figure out a way to address it without making him defensive or damaging the relationship.My feeling is that you should take this as an opportunity to learn how to deal with this sort of thing… First and foremost, get a handle about how you feel about it.My boyfriend and I have been going out for about three months now.We’ve already had sex and I think we took it way too fast.He says he wants to be with me forever and that he loves me- I mean, could see us being like that but does he really mean it or is he just saying what he thinks I want to hear?He’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me, but sometimes he won’t call or text the whole day.
Guys, lovable as we can be, usually like to use the phone to make a plan and that’s that.
He won’t get defensive if you put it in these terms.
On the other hand, you definitely do NOT want to come from a place of blaming, assuming or attacking.
It makes me feel unloved but I don’t know how to let him know that without him getting mad.
He’s like “Oh yeah, I’ll text you tomorrow.” Then he doesn’t!