All of our experiences, choices, and actions in life become a part of the complex, multifaceted person that we are.
What matters most is not the particular things we have experienced or done at various times in our life.
In a real marriage, the social, legal, and physical union flows seamlessly from the spiritual union that makes two souls into one soul.
That is why especially in the higher heavens, a married couple is commonly called “one angel.” From a distance, they may even appear as a single person.
(Mark 10:6–9) Marriage, as God designed it, makes two human beings into one.
And though that does mean we become one physically in the act of lovemaking, everything God does starts with God and spirit, not with flesh.
The same fundamental human love and desire to join with another person here on earth continues with us into the spiritual world.What matters most is the choices we make in response to them, and the person we become as a result.At the time of our death, we have made all of the choices we are going to make here on earth. It is this character that we have formed through our lifetime on earth, and up to the time of our death, that will determine who we will be married to in heaven.But he also said that the legalistic relationship that they called “marriage” does not exist in heaven.Unfortunately, Christians ever since have thought he was saying there is no marriage at all in the afterlife.