“Parents should never minimize or ridicule a first love,” says Tucson pediatrician Dr. “It is a very important relationship to teenagers, and it’s important for another reason, in that it is their first intimate relationship with someone outside their family.” When “going out” evolves into “going steady,” it is natural to worry that things are getting too serious too soon.
If you see schoolwork start to suffer and friendships fall by the wayside, it is reasonable to restrict the number of times Romeo and Juliet can rendezvous during the school week.
“I understand how upset you are, and I know you may feel like your sadness is never going to go away.
But it will, and probably sooner than you think.” Do not use this opportunity to reveal how you never liked the newly insignificant significant other in the first place.
The recent trend among early adolescents is for boys and girls to socialize as part of a group.
They march off en masse to the mall or to the movies, or join a gang tossing a Frisbee on the beach.
Acknowledge your teen’s pain but assure her that she will be happy again.” They are also genuinely curious about their parents’ courtship and marriage (“Mom, did you fall in love with Dad at first sight?”) and, if applicable, divorce (“Dad, how can two people love each other for years and years, then stop being in love? Having an imperfect romantic résumé yourself does not disqualify you from initiating this conversation.Still, when an adult relationship ends badly, at least the wounded party knows from having weathered other disappointments that the all-too-familiar hollow feeling and veil of depression will inevitably lift.Teenagers haven’t yet learned how resilient the heart is.