These days, if you have it, flaunt it—even on social media. [Try: Why do all the nice guys suck at online dating? If they’re looking for a pet, this can be a good thing.
Modesty is not a thing anymore, as people want to see what you’ve got right from the get-go. Kindness is a priority for those looking for mates, but that goes without saying. Again, no one wants a good listener and not a good talker. When it comes to romantic relationships, though, this is a given. Just like “loyal,” this term is too uppity and doesn’t belong in the vocabulary of those who are looking for dates—although you have to be dependable when you set your first date.
[Confession: I used a dating site without a photo and this is what happened] Best words for men #1 Physically fit.
Although the data shows this advice holds true for both sexes, it’s mostly directed at guys, because they are way more likely to talk about looks.
Our program looked at keywords and phrases, how they affected reply rates, and what trends were statistically significant.
The result: a set of rules for what you should and shouldn’t say when introducing yourself. Let’s go: Netspeak, bad grammar, and bad spelling are huge turn-offs.
When you write this, guys will expect you to cook them chicken soup when they’re sick, know their favorite football team, greet them cheerfully in the morning, wish them luck on their big day at work, and just be… If you want to attract guys to your profile, you have to put “optimistic” there, so they know you are positive, cheerful, and likable.
[Try: 10 annoyingly common misconceptions about online dating] #9 Hardworking.