To start things off, I can tell you that one of the things that guys will talk about is who we think is a hot chick.
I can also tell you that men have a wide range of what they consider to be an ideal weight and their “type” of woman.
Instead, what I see too often is a man falls head over heels in love and gets himself in too deep, too soon. Her favorite pattern is leopard and her jewelry looks like it came from a fishing lure box. Feels terrible about herself, so must do what she can to get validation that she's worthy and desirable. These women can have a baby at the snap of a finger, love sex, preferably during ovulation, and just won't use birth control. Counting on your soft heart, her story mirrors a Greek tragedy. Will drop you when she finds "someone better," even though we all know he's much worse.
The only way men could possibly make it through the dating scene in one piece is to learn the art of how to choose a woman who is most likely to enhance his life over the long haul, avoid the ones who are purveyors of pain, and I am here to help. At least one in 10 women has one, so educate yourself - the most common ones are Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissism, Sociopath, and Dependent Personality Disorder. It breaks my heart to see a man in my office who feels like a complete fool after having been duped by a woman who used and abused him in her own self interest.
(This is an added note: To the women who are naturally skinny like a runway model, there’s nothing wrong with that.
My only point here is to women whose bodies don’t look like a runway model’s and feel they need to in order to get the best guy.) While I’m on the subject, most of the female celebrities that pop up on tabloids for getting super skinny also look horrifying to me…
Being a therapist and a woman, I have seen dysfunctional females in action, and I know what they do and how they think. Quick help guide: Look for abandonment and victim issues, extreme moods, lack of empathy, no conscience, know-it-all, self-absorption, always blames others.
The madness happens when some poor man enters the picture like a hungry fish in a lake. Allows you to hang on, pay for things and keep your hopes up.