There's no rule, but six months after divorce is a safe bet. If you like to party a lot, or insist on leisurely Sunday brunch, or if you'll feel slighted to not be included in everything, save everyone heartache and don't date a dad.— A. As model Heather Mills became Mrs Paul Mc Cartney, the question on everyone's lips was: 'How will they get on?Compartmentalizing his life might mean he's not ready to move forward. If he says he doesn't, don't expect to change his mind.If you're looking for a relationship, it's generally best not to date a dad who is still separated because usually he's not finished grieving. Some 2.8 million single dads live with their kids, up 27 percent from 10 years ago and nearly double the number in 1990, according to Matthew Weinshenker, assistant sociology professor at Fordham University, who analyzed 2010 census data.(The number likely includes many joint custody arrangements.) While single dads face many of the same dating challenges as single moms, there are some differences: In a survey of 100 single fathers, the vast majority preferred to date women with children, thinking she would be more selfless and understanding of his commitment as a father, said Ellie Slott Fisher, who conducted the survey as research for her book "Dating for Dads: The Single Father's Guide to Dating Well Without Parenting Poorly" (Bantam).Impromptu weekend trips to the mountains may not be happening.Once you are in a more serious relationship, allow him to have alone time with his children.
"I found it very arbitrary that before they got to know me, they had decided against me."But as Ruyter cycled through "close to 100" first dates and a few long-term girlfriends (a scheduling feat, considering half his week was devoted to his son), his romantic standards heightened in ways they may not have pre-fatherhood.If your girlfriend has an important family wedding she wants you to attend, that takes precedence over a kid's hockey game, she said."Life is meant to be lived," Fisher said, "and in the end, your kids want you to be happy."[email protected] advice for anyone dating a guy with kids Dating a single dad has its perks. Here are 10 things to keep in mind when your love interest has kids, according to Hartman: Go slow and leave it up to him to decide it's time to introduce you to the kids, which shouldn't happen until you're moving toward a committed relationship.He's often more responsible and less selfish than his child-free counterparts, said Christie Hartman, a research psychologist, dating coach and author of "Dating the Divorced Man: Sort Through the Baggage to Decide If He's Right for You" (Adams Media). Be realistic about his parenting duties and the limits those place on his time and financial freedom.A tough hurdle is when your kids dislike your new love interest.As you determine the source of the hostility, be patient and constantly reaffirm your love for your kids, Fisher said.